They spell my name wrong even when my email is my name. It is not just rude. It is lack of care. Othering. Demonstrating just how unimportant I am.
Do you have a nickname?
No. Not for you. My pet names are names my loved ones call me with care.
When we apply we have to consider changing our name. Jay. Not Jayanet. No not Jay-a-net. Never mind.
When we know they turn us down for jobs. When they assume we are already too stupid when we hand in our work. At the very least they can call us what we are.
Every time I correct you is my political warfare. I exist. I am here. I survive.
Named by my grandfather. The history of my ancestors passed through me and I carry their strength. Queens, Warriors, Mothers’ of Prophets. It surpasses above and beyond the time you exist in and cold land you know. My name is fire. It is power.
give your daughters difficult names. give your daughters names that command the full use of tongue. my name makes you want to tell me the truth. my name doesn’t allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right. – Warsan Shire
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My real name is Roisin and my last name is also a first name – Kelly. So even when I sign emails “Rosie” I usually get back “Dear Kelly,” or some misspelling of my real name. It’s so frustrating. It is a little off putting when people don’t call you by the name you prefer to be called. But that quote you included is amazing!
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It’s really not that hard when someone takes the time to sign off with their name!!
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Just a friendly reminder that there are plenty of people like me who have hearing loss and mispronounce innocently and need patience when learning new people. I like that you have fire.
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Thank you for the reminder. Point take re mishearing. But no excuse with emails!
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You know… I can mispronounce a name but I at least want to say it right too. Names can be empowering!
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The certainly can. And it’s only when you want to try rather than saying ‘can I give you a nickname’ that you respect and show you’re trying!
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